Meditation and complementary practices that helped me relax and become more aware of my thought patterns and habits. Therapy also helped.
Basically, I become aware of unhealthy habits and attitudes. In some cases, just becoming aware of them allowed me to stop doing them. I also learned to set boundaries and communicate them in a non-aggressive but firm way. In the past I found it hard or next to impossible to do this.
Frankly, I still have the feeling there are people who find me intimidating, but I don't know what to do about it.
Or maybe I should just accept that not everyone likes me or is comfortable with me. I'm not saying this as to be an asshole, but you can't jive with everyone and it's futile to try.
I wouldn't spend time dwelling on this. You're right & it's not possible to work well with everyone. The original post indicated difficulty getting to the interview stage. We have basically no information about your social skills or if that's the cause of anything.
Both are data points to measure social status. Both are dependent on the group (I've certainly had the experience of having more fun with some coworkers than others). And neither are actionable.
And I don't think either are all that relevant to this post.
