As SWEs, we're generally privileged enough to experience "work as an aesthetic choice", which is to say we can choose the way we want to work from a lot of different companies. This isn't always true though, some parameters dramatically shrink your pool (you want to make > $300k yr total comp, there's maybe a dozen companies like that, for example).
It sounds like you just need to find a company that's a bunch of extroverts who like working together. I get that part of your point is that it seems like a lot of those companies suddenly went remote and introverted, but, I don't think there's a lot to be done about that.
Alternatively, you could look for this kind of camaraderie outside of work, maybe at dev meetups, hackerspaces, or local volunteering.
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The WFH/WFO debate reminds me a lot of code style debates where the choices are deeply personal and no one choice will make enough people happy to really "win". In these kinds of situations, I think we need to take a step back and let people choose what works for them. In the case of code style debates, that's running your own personally-configured code formatter on your local machine whenever you check something out, and having pre-commit hooks to format it in the "company" style whenever you commit something.
In the WFH/WFO debate, it sounds like the best thing to do is let people find the kind of working environment that works for them. Trying to convince people that your way is objectively best is a losing proposition.
It sounds like you just need to find a company that's a bunch of extroverts who like working together. I get that part of your point is that it seems like a lot of those companies suddenly went remote and introverted, but, I don't think there's a lot to be done about that.
Alternatively, you could look for this kind of camaraderie outside of work, maybe at dev meetups, hackerspaces, or local volunteering.
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The WFH/WFO debate reminds me a lot of code style debates where the choices are deeply personal and no one choice will make enough people happy to really "win". In these kinds of situations, I think we need to take a step back and let people choose what works for them. In the case of code style debates, that's running your own personally-configured code formatter on your local machine whenever you check something out, and having pre-commit hooks to format it in the "company" style whenever you commit something.
In the WFH/WFO debate, it sounds like the best thing to do is let people find the kind of working environment that works for them. Trying to convince people that your way is objectively best is a losing proposition.