No offense, but I think you're misinterpreting a normal pattern of discussion on this site. jpatokal's comment was pretty clearly not trying to dismiss your experience as invalid but simply contributed a similar story.
You seem to be reading a lot into some very innocuous responses.
I read jpatokal's response as simple addressing your point that the original author didn't make his point. There was no explicit criticism in the post. Several of us now have tried to point out that we didn't detect any implicit criticism either, but you've take all of these very friendly responses as further attacks.
As far as I can tell, nobody is being hostile or making assumptions here except for you.
And yet the pile on of criticism continues while I get downvoted for calmly replying.
I was asked a question. I answered. That has been downvoted and more and more people pile on to explain to me the error of my ways for answering the question in good faith, yet no one seems to see how that pattern is inherently dismissive of me.
