I get what you're saying, but there seems to be a bit a subjective decision being made there. Would you make a similar joke with a racial (instead of gender-based) slant in that situation? I doubt it. Or would you work the Holocaust (sorry, used for shock effect) into the joke? This is just to say that there are obviously some things you would never joke about. So who decides what's acceptable and what's not? The person making the joke?
I've heard some good snarky comments about the way police interact with black people that brought race and humor into dangerous proximity. I wouldn't say that there are topics I would never joke about, but there are implications I would never make. I'd joke about NASCAR being a boy's club but not about women drivers. The old "Punching Up / Punching Down" distinction.
And nobody gets to "decide" what everyone else should feel. What I have a problem with is the idea that it's not the meaning of your utterance that makes it offensive, but merely the topic. The idea that tome expressed in the parent comment that there was literally no circumstance under which you could joke about women being treated unfairly (even if it was to call attention to the problem).
I find the idea of someone declaring what's "not okay" for everyone else to be as upsetting as a boor telling a mean-spirited joke and insisting that nobody should be offended because it's just a joke.
