Nah I won't take it the wrong way, and I'm not really arguing for a feminism problem, though I do recall an incident or two some months back at a gaming convention or something.
Point being I am male too, I don't think I or my coworkers suffers from any -ism, but I might be unaware of it.
I think us male gamers and techies are very insular, even when we think we're not. I'm not implying what we do is done out of malice; I think in many cases we have a cultural blind spot... but this is no reason to stop fighting against it.
In my opinion, the right reaction is to stop and think "well, maybe there is something we can do to make our environment less hostile to women and minorities. Maybe I don't see what's the big deal, but it's there anyway." And it'd be a huge win if we can think "this woman knows way more about $PROG_LANG than I do!" and not get defensive or think she's bitchy or bossy, especially when we would accept a similarly assertive personality from a male hacker.
The wrong reaction is to get all #GamerGate about it, think it's a feminist conspiracy, and get all outraged and defensive about it -- "well, I don't discriminate against women, so this cannot be true!" Unfortunately this reaction seems to be all too common.
Point being I am male too, I don't think I or my coworkers suffers from any -ism, but I might be unaware of it.