it's personal, i'm not going into detail. he ripped someone off, and if he wanted to fix it he could. but he chooses not to, and criticizes others for their behaviors. i just find that to be pretty hypocritical.
I'm not saying you don't have a reason to be angry at the guy, I'm just saying that an opaque comment questioning somebody's character in a public forum is not appropriate.
I think it adds an appropriate flavoring to the original comment. He's not just starting a thread on the original, which would have been dickish. He added onto the criticism here of Dustin by saying that he'd heard a bad story, and thought Dustin's calling somebody incompetent was ironic considering the story he'd heard.
Perhaps I have a biased viewpoint, though, because I was told a similar story that's been flavoring my outlook on this. It's not a story I'd say in public, because it's not mine to tell, but I've been having similar thoughts about Dustin through this mess, and I appreciate that they were stated. I also understand the need to be opaque when it's not your public drama. It's worth throwing in the sentiment if it's relevant, and in this case it is. Perhaps it wasn't inserted very subtly, but it deserves to be here.
the reason i brought it up here was because he has ignored e-mails in the past. why would he respond to one of my e-mails if he ignored someone else's?
he is responding to mine now, and if he makes things right (which he says he is trying to do now), it will have turned out to be a big misunderstanding and i will gladly take back my negative opinion towards him.
Criticizing Dustin for an incident regarding which you have not sought his side is very poor form. Similarly, criticizing his argument ad hominem highlights only your own bias without refuting or examining any of his points.
To quote John Stewart Mill here, "He who knows only his own side of the case, knows little of that. His reasons may be good, and no one may have been able to refute them. But if he is equally unable to refute the reasons on the opposite side; if he does not so much as know what they are, he has no ground for preferring either opinion."
I think people should upvote jmtame. He probably wouldn't have gotten any response from Dustin Curtis unless he leveraged the threat of public embarrassment. Similarly, whenever I see a bemmu thread, I point out that he owes me $20, because the only way to bring him out of the woodwork is through social shaming.
to follow up with all of this: this whole thing got sorted out shortly after bringing it up. seems like it was a misunderstanding on both sides. cheers!
