I thought this was a fairly common attitude all over. After seeing my grandparents go through it, I'd definitely prefer to just die right away rather than live out the rest of my days in a nursing home. Maybe I'd change my mind once faced with it... but of course the big fear is that I'd no longer be capable of making the choice.
Would you mind elaborating a bit on what's bad about it? I've been to a few retirement homes and they seemed reasonably nice places, but I don't think I've visited a nursing home.
Imagine a day care where the children never get picked up, need to sleep there, and cost is the biggest factor except for in a very small percentage of facilities.
Now replace every child with an octogenarian who hasn't seen his family in six weeks, or maybe just saw his family yesterday for his birthday but doesn't remember at all. Replace the apples and letters on the walls with Cardiograms and notices about patient safety and how dedicated the employee who was on the shift when your grandmother's wedding band went missing is to her care.
It's a problem that a lot of people want to ignore because it really is hard to think about it.
It greatly depends on the nursing home and possibly how much money you had going in.
My grandmother was in one, in the 90's, and it was quite a nice place with an active social life (which she pretty much ignored, because she had lots of family around).
