Then you probably don't fit either. And it's really not about trying to fit. It's about having good ideas, executing well, being resourceful, being persuasive, etc. I think you're missing the point if you think it's about "fitting in".

I don't fit, which is fine.

But you missed my point, which I'll make explicit.

"But you have no idea why" is condescending and dismissive. It betrays an arrogance that's very off-putting.