I have seen studies as well. And written two college papers on the subject. And was raped -- by someone whom I am quite confident thought he had my permission...until I began screaming and crying. At which point, he got up and left, without ejaculating. I am confident he did not intend to hurt me. So my first-hand experience, as the victim, indicates that, at least some of the time, no, honest, it was a really terrible misunderstanding.