This hit very close to home. My (former) best friend and business partner stole a ton of money from me and our business, and I'm about to declare personal bankruptcy, right after my kid was born.
My password is some variation of how much of an asshole he is. But it's not helping. In fact, it's causing me to constantly dwell on it, painfully re-living our conversations, and thinking what I could've done differently to prevent it from happening.
Logically I understand that I need to forgive him and let it go, but I'm not able to do it. I'm going to change my password to an affirmation that I forgive him. I think it will be a good start.
That sucks, I was once in a situation where I held a grudge against a person for a very long time, to the point where I thought about them and what they did almost every waking moment. It made it really hard to move on with my life. What did it for me was forgiving the person in my own mind, truly forgiving them. It didn't happen overnight but it made all the difference in the world. Later on I bumped into learntoforgive.com and found that their methodology was exactly what I intuitively did to forgive in my case, I took notes on their process, hopefully they'll help you: https://docs.google.com/document/d/13w3d4a-e460yQV2y48iUVmBy...
My password is some variation of how much of an asshole he is. But it's not helping. In fact, it's causing me to constantly dwell on it, painfully re-living our conversations, and thinking what I could've done differently to prevent it from happening.
Logically I understand that I need to forgive him and let it go, but I'm not able to do it. I'm going to change my password to an affirmation that I forgive him. I think it will be a good start.