Considering that I didn't say what I think it means, it seems you may be under the very same illusion of understanding I was criticizing, in which one thinks one's explanation, metaphor, or heuristic has caused a specific model in the other's mind, when it has not.
In the same way, about half of the people who have offered that advice, operationalize it oppositely from how you just did, because they (mistakenly) think that the correct behaviors do result from doing what feels natural or easy.
Furthermore, for many people, "being honest and open about who they are and what they want" means directly conveying things that are socially inappropriately to convey, which leads them (including you, probably) to immediately update the advice in unpredictable ways, revealing it to have the same lack of content or understanding that I claimed.
Well, I assumed you held the normal interpretation. I'm OK with being wrong occasionally.
If who you are and what you want is socially inappropriate to your friends or romantic interests then I suggest finding new ones. Seriously. Similarly with everyone you can choose. Of course, with colleagues and family, certain masks have to be worn... But minimize mask-wearing!
Someone once told me that "If my friends didn't know me, they wouldn't be my friends". Best thing I ever heard. After I became more honest with my friends I feel a lot less lonely and it turned out they were very accepting.
So you advise, in at least some cases, people go to those whom they haven't met, and express an explicit desire for sex, exactly as it comes to them in their mind?
No? Then this is exactly what I'm criticizing: you have some classifier that you have black-box access to, with boundaries you can't really specify when prompted. And I would not have the confidence to convey something as advice unless my understanding yielded an intuition for these boundaries, which yours does not. Hence:
"If I actually understood this topic as well as you claim to, I would reveal that understanding much better than you currently are."
Now, the black box, for you, may certainly emit the correct answers, but not in what that allows you to convey it as meaningful advice.
In the same way, about half of the people who have offered that advice, operationalize it oppositely from how you just did, because they (mistakenly) think that the correct behaviors do result from doing what feels natural or easy.
Furthermore, for many people, "being honest and open about who they are and what they want" means directly conveying things that are socially inappropriately to convey, which leads them (including you, probably) to immediately update the advice in unpredictable ways, revealing it to have the same lack of content or understanding that I claimed.