In my opinion, if you agree with the 'women are victims' stance with regards to STEM, then you are sexist. It's basically a backhanded way of saying men are superior to women, when most women simply are just not interested in the field.
People seem to forget that men and women are fundamentally different. They have different interests and different goals in life. There is nothing wrong with that, and it doesn't need to be "fixed".
Here's a fact for you: There's tons of evidence in the testimony of MtF and FtM transgender people. A lot of MtFs simply lose interest in the sciences when they go on hormones.
In modern times women OUTNUMBER men in college yet the ration of women to men in STEM is abysmally low.
This isn't sexism this is factual. I'm trying to find an explanation besides: 'Science is filled with sexist pigs so that's why women avoid it.'
I'm just finding it harder to agree with the 'women are victims' stance the more I critically think about the situation.