Speaking from 3 years ahead of you, you're going to begin feeling like you've lost things a lot more.
What sorts of things? Do you mean experiences, or opportunities, or...?
People often avoid hearing the bad things about their work and people often avoid saying bad things about it, but you need to hear every single criticism no matter how irrelevant it actually ends up being.
Actually, the start-up that I'm working on is a site devoted to making brutal critique easier, with the goal of eventually making a cleaner, more effective system for publishing works. I got that brutal honesty from a friend's mom, who worked as an editor for one of the big companies, and who I sent a manuscript at 13. So I guess in some ways I'm lucky: I got that motivation early enough to be able to develop a good system to handle that stuff.
What sorts of things? Do you mean experiences, or opportunities, or...?
I know for certain I've missed some experiences, but I think in the same time I put myself through a ton of unique experiences. I never went into an office job, so I definitely missed the whole office politics thing as I always worked directly for the person who hired me because I went into construction jobs. Although, like I said that gives completely unique experiences; I worked with a plumber who was putting his three kids through private schools because he could afford to, whilst one of my friends was taken out of private schools at 13 because his dad, a surgeon, couldn't afford to put him through. I'd been taught by society to believe plumber = bad job, when really the plumber was making better money and living a better life with better hours than the surgeon.
So I'd say I did lose some experiences, but I'd say the experiences I did get were far more valuable to me because they're less societally recognized. I know I missed a couple of good opportunities, as I was looking for jobs at a newspaper at 17 as an intern because I had enough experience.
However, again I got different opportunities and experience for not doing that. I've been married for like 6 months now and I'm currently immigrating to Canada, which is definitely a unique process, probably the mental equivalent of dropping the soap in a jail's shower.
Incidentally it would no doubt help me when I get published as I'd be aiming to sell first into the US market and second into the UK (where I was born) and the USD and the CAD are closely tied, where as the USD to the GBP could butcher my earnings. Selling second in the UK would more than likely protect against the percentage loss you get from international distribution rights. IIRC you only get 2/3 the percentage in foreign countries of what you do from the original country of publication, but sale-for-sale (when the economy is good in Europe) I could get it doubled on the exchange rate, so I'd still be making 4/3's of a sale in the US. This is one thing I'd have never thought of when I was younger, that the country you live in could drastically affect how much money you make as a writer.
So I guess in some ways I'm lucky: I got that motivation early enough to be able to develop a good system to handle that stuff.
I'd say you're lucky to have had the experience, some people are utterly crippled by any form of criticism. So it definitely gives you good prospects if you deal with criticism well, because any novel probably goes through a dozen people who are being critical of it before it ever gets to the hands of someone who reads it and likes it for just being a good book.
What sorts of things? Do you mean experiences, or opportunities, or...?
People often avoid hearing the bad things about their work and people often avoid saying bad things about it, but you need to hear every single criticism no matter how irrelevant it actually ends up being.
Actually, the start-up that I'm working on is a site devoted to making brutal critique easier, with the goal of eventually making a cleaner, more effective system for publishing works. I got that brutal honesty from a friend's mom, who worked as an editor for one of the big companies, and who I sent a manuscript at 13. So I guess in some ways I'm lucky: I got that motivation early enough to be able to develop a good system to handle that stuff.