"I don't purport to have a solution because I fight depression, suicidal thoughts myself and at best I can only say depression is something that you don't get rid of, only something that you learn to co-occupy your mind with."
I will say to you that depression is a state of mind that you could totally get rid of. How do I know? I got depressed myself and my family members have the tendency to depress, seriously. Members of my family that almost killed their selves now are much much better.
The are also very smart too (probably it has something to do with it when you think too much while in a negative state).
A lot of people believe that when you are depressed you just could uplift your spirits,making you smile or laugh and in fact you can, for a very short time, but not too long, because depression is an addiction of the brain. The brain has a very powerful chemistry inside and you can't change it too fast.
In the western world, depression is epidemic, because we have things like cars and iphone, but the essential things that people need we don't, like friends and lovers or freedom, or time with yourself or with others, or time outside.
Like rats on a cage since birth, they don't know what they don't have but someway they know they need it, because they feel empty inside.
As you probably know even dogs get depressed if they don't go outside and run enough, people try to care for them but if the basics are not met the dog does not improve.
My advice is:
0-Understand that it took years for you to get into depression and it will take a lot of time to you to get out completely, but you will eventually. Don't try to get out in a weekend because it is impossible, your brain chemistry will change over months, not days.
1- Look at the normal things you need for your life and get them: sleep well, eat well, do exercise every day and love the people around you. Everything else is secondary, Internet, TV, "too much work".... they could wait.
2-Start designing and changing your routines, and change them one by one. Only one every 30 days. The body can't change faster than this, the reason most people fail changing is that they try too much, and this is not reasonable. You can change 12 routines a year, like getting outside very day.
3- Learn to do meditation or if you believe in God, pray. Every single day start thanksgiving (another very important routine).
4- Break the negative cycles in your brain, there is a meditation technique for that called something like "leave your thoughts pass like clouds".
I appreciated the response. The reply was information I already know, thought about, and have concluded on but they are helpful nonetheless.
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I will say to you that depression is a state of mind that you could totally get rid of. How do I know? I got depressed myself and my family members have the tendency to depress, seriously. Members of my family that almost killed their selves now are much much better.
The are also very smart too (probably it has something to do with it when you think too much while in a negative state).
A lot of people believe that when you are depressed you just could uplift your spirits,making you smile or laugh and in fact you can, for a very short time, but not too long, because depression is an addiction of the brain. The brain has a very powerful chemistry inside and you can't change it too fast.
In the western world, depression is epidemic, because we have things like cars and iphone, but the essential things that people need we don't, like friends and lovers or freedom, or time with yourself or with others, or time outside.
Like rats on a cage since birth, they don't know what they don't have but someway they know they need it, because they feel empty inside.
As you probably know even dogs get depressed if they don't go outside and run enough, people try to care for them but if the basics are not met the dog does not improve.
My advice is:
0-Understand that it took years for you to get into depression and it will take a lot of time to you to get out completely, but you will eventually. Don't try to get out in a weekend because it is impossible, your brain chemistry will change over months, not days.
1- Look at the normal things you need for your life and get them: sleep well, eat well, do exercise every day and love the people around you. Everything else is secondary, Internet, TV, "too much work".... they could wait.
2-Start designing and changing your routines, and change them one by one. Only one every 30 days. The body can't change faster than this, the reason most people fail changing is that they try too much, and this is not reasonable. You can change 12 routines a year, like getting outside very day.
3- Learn to do meditation or if you believe in God, pray. Every single day start thanksgiving (another very important routine).
4- Break the negative cycles in your brain, there is a meditation technique for that called something like "leave your thoughts pass like clouds".
5-Learn from other people, you are not alone: http://www.mortylefkoe.com/rid-depression/?utm_source=rss...
You get the idea. Hope it helps you.