I honestly think Derek's article slips into sarcasm at the midpoint and nobody is picking up on that:
Someone was rude to me today? My fault. I could have lightened their mood beforehand.
At least when I read this, the message I got is that it's easy to blame yourself when overthinking failures, but in reality it takes two to tango.
Your girlfriend dumped you out of the blue? Where was her communication? That guy that stole $9,000? He's still a thief. Those are things out of your control.
Someone was rude to me today? My fault. I could have lightened their mood beforehand.
At least when I read this, the message I got is that it's easy to blame yourself when overthinking failures, but in reality it takes two to tango.
Your girlfriend dumped you out of the blue? Where was her communication? That guy that stole $9,000? He's still a thief. Those are things out of your control.