If you argue in front of your kids, in a way that respects each other and eventually comes to a fair and agreeable result, then your kid will learn valuable conflict resolution skills. On the other hand, if you shout at each other in front of the kids until one of you throws their hands in the air and stomps off, and nothing is resolved and everyone is angry, then your kid will only learn the fine art of temper tantrums. And, as you say, if you do nothing in front of your kids, they will be utterly unequipped to do anything.
As my wrestling coach used to say, practice doesn't make perfect, perfect practice makes perfect. The same holds true for kids and their acquiring habits from their parents: they will pick up the habits you demonstrate in front of them, for better or worse.
Also, this sort of stuff is exactly why I am absolutely terrified of having kids.
I wish I could join this comment and the parent comment at the hip. It is exactly right that your kids learn how to resolve conflicts by the way their parents resolve conflicts. This is one of the benefits of not living in a single parent household.
I liked the list in the article, it summarizes to communicate authentically. But it took me probably the first 15 years of my marriage before I understood the ramifications of that.
My parents argued badly, as well. Sometimes, not always, you can learn from watching someone do something badly. I like to think I didn't (and don't) make the same mistakes my parents made.
Also, this sort of stuff is exactly why I am absolutely terrified of having kids.
I'm not sure how old you are, but I had the same feeling when I was in my 20's. I gradually lost it, because I realized over time that kids are pretty resilient and it's not that hard to do the right thing. I don't regret it at all.
As my wrestling coach used to say, practice doesn't make perfect, perfect practice makes perfect. The same holds true for kids and their acquiring habits from their parents: they will pick up the habits you demonstrate in front of them, for better or worse.
Also, this sort of stuff is exactly why I am absolutely terrified of having kids.