But the sex itself, is it that much different than "real" sex? Are there really that many people having boring sex to make the amount of people coming close to and/or surpassing porn a statistical anomaly?
This is a bit like asking if Hollywood hacking is really that much different from real hacking. Real sex is exciting to the participants -- if done right, more exciting than porn sex -- but that excitement doesn't show up well when the act is filmed, so porn producers have settled on a series of tropes intended to make it exciting to the (predominantly male) audience. So there is lots of emphasis on body parts moving against and within each other, and the event of male ejaculation. To allow the camera a good view, porn actors fuck in positions that would be fatiguing if used regularly by people of ordinary fitness levels.
For most people, real sex involves a lot of kissing and fondling non-genital, non-breast body parts. (Sometimes biting, smacking, or pinching if you are kinky.) They may be seated or reclining, next to each other or one atop the other, for long periods of time with relatively little movement. Bringing a woman to orgasm is especially tricky: some can cum in 15 seconds while others require long and careful attention. Some have physical needs which change with time; I recall one girl who preferred a bit of roughness early in play and a gentler touch later on. When she does cum, a woman may scream and holler, moan quietly, or not at all; sometimes the only clue she gives you is holding you tighter, or an involuntary twitch of the hips that can be felt more than seen. Joe Six Pack stroking it at home doesn't want to see that shit, he just want bang bang bang. And that's what porn delivers, but imho it's the easiest and most boring part of a sexual relationship (whether committed or not).
This is a bit like asking if Hollywood hacking is really that much different from real hacking. Real sex is exciting to the participants -- if done right, more exciting than porn sex -- but that excitement doesn't show up well when the act is filmed, so porn producers have settled on a series of tropes intended to make it exciting to the (predominantly male) audience. So there is lots of emphasis on body parts moving against and within each other, and the event of male ejaculation. To allow the camera a good view, porn actors fuck in positions that would be fatiguing if used regularly by people of ordinary fitness levels.
For most people, real sex involves a lot of kissing and fondling non-genital, non-breast body parts. (Sometimes biting, smacking, or pinching if you are kinky.) They may be seated or reclining, next to each other or one atop the other, for long periods of time with relatively little movement. Bringing a woman to orgasm is especially tricky: some can cum in 15 seconds while others require long and careful attention. Some have physical needs which change with time; I recall one girl who preferred a bit of roughness early in play and a gentler touch later on. When she does cum, a woman may scream and holler, moan quietly, or not at all; sometimes the only clue she gives you is holding you tighter, or an involuntary twitch of the hips that can be felt more than seen. Joe Six Pack stroking it at home doesn't want to see that shit, he just want bang bang bang. And that's what porn delivers, but imho it's the easiest and most boring part of a sexual relationship (whether committed or not).