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Nah, as a middle aged person at the bottom of the dating pool, there’s a lot of delusional thinking. A lot. A lot a lot. For example, me: 42, divorced, not rich but not poor - six figure income, her: 36, was “career oriented” but now feels like she missed the boat on kids; her: “If you don’t propose within the first 3 months, you’re not interested in marriage, just wasting time.” Also her: “A man is supposed to take care of me.” Again her: “what’s his is mine and what’s mine is mine”. This is the delusional thinking that exists in the dating world. That some rich Prince Charming is going to come save the hard working but hard partying girl who just realized she’s a woman.

I deleted my apps and will just eventually die alone.


I think the important thing is to generalize from this one experience and apply sweeping stereotypes to massivr groups of people.

It's not right, but the real average is a kinda tough situation too, not anyone's fault really. Most family-oriented women aren't waiting til 36, most younger women aren't dating with 10+ year age gap, being divorced makes it harder no matter what the reason is. I have some relatives dealing with this.

Yup - I’ll just wait for someone else’s marriage to fall apart and then I’ll find my person :D

This is such a fair read on the situation in America. Hang in there man. You can escape it but you need to leave the country.

I’m waiting for my own EU savior to give me safe passage :D we all have our delusions. Come here on vacation… partially fluent in Spanish, English, and can get by with French, German, Italian, Portuguese.

Rather than dying alone, find a robust offline community of people, and seek a partner there.



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