If 2 people use words, and the intended meaning is properly conveyed between them, they used the correct words. I feel like you might be getting lost in the symbolic.
well that's an ironic point for you to make considering it appears my point was entirely miscommunicated , I'll try again by saying that people are addicted to labels and identification which in my opinion is not in anyone's best interests , if it still seems to you that I am lost then this conversation is itself a bit lost too