All I'm actually arguing for is exercising judgement in deciding whether to ask something that might be considered "a stupid question", rather than following black-and-white advice to always ask it anyway. All I'm arguing is that there exists a question that is too stupid to to be worth the reputational damage of asking.

> I get the feeling that it's because of fear of being marked dumb by people like you actually.

I make positive and negative judgements about people based on things they do, which is an imperfect heuristic but the best one available and much better than nothing. So do you.