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I wonder if engineering close connections through structured vulnerability truly leads to meaningful relationships. The best friendships emerge organically through shared struggles and mutual support, rather than scripted conversations.

The idea of forcing deep conversations might neglect the natural dynamics that make friendships work.

Strong friendships aren’t just about emotional sharing—they also require shared responsibility, common interests, and personal development.

Friendship isn’t just a checklist of deep questions—it’s cultivated through shared experiences.

True friendships form through shared hardships, common pursuits, and a natural alignment of values. There’s something profoundly meaningful about forging relationships through mutual struggle, rather than intellectual exercises in vulnerability. If someone wants deeper friendships, they might be better served by pursuing meaningful challenges alongside others, rather than structuring conversations.




Why waste everyone's time with this? We can generate facile LLM responses ourselves.


> The best friendships emerge organically through shared struggles and mutual support

This is the basis for fraternity hazing and it does work but the popular point of view is that it’s a bad thing.




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