Have you messed with using it as a virtual display?
I tend to find myself using that feature above everything else. It's been quite handy for traveling and it's enjoyable that you can set your environment and get away. In fact I'm using it right now in a virtual Joshua Tree scene.
It's definitely not for everyone though so I get it.
The latency over AWDL/WiFi is noticeable and I personally am pretty sensitive/intolerant of it. I despise using VNC for the same reason. I have a second Mac that I need to regularly switch between and found it easier to spend hundreds of dollars on video capture equipment than to use Screen Sharing over Ethernet.
I’ve been told the experience with the developer strap is better in that regard. I still would have to 3D print a new light seal that doesn’t block out my lower peripheral vision of the real world (where the fuck is my mouse? Where is the home row?, turns out I use my eyes to answer part of those)
I also never liked how Apple stubbornly doesn’t allow input passthrough. Just let me look and pinch to activate things on my Mac if I want to ( I wouldn’t for everything, but moving windows/files?). I have the same issue with using Sidecar. Like, here’s this device I *always* use touch input on, suddenly not able to.
And I’m sure Apple has some BS reason for it, but personally, I think it’s because they know everyone would realize that a touch screen Mac would work just fine, and they’d no longer be able to artificially segment their products/software fascism with a straight face anymore.
It's definitely not for everyone though so I get it.