My parents (old timers) are like that. I know exactly what that is and it's not what I'm talking about.
My comments were related to the OP attitude (from memory now) of working hard for what seemed certainly less than 2 years. It takes more than that. I'm not saying "work for 30 years and then come up for air". While I would not put a specific time on it (each situation will vary) it is definitely less than 20 and more than 2! (Of course if things don't work out by 20 years you've got some explaining to do..)
My comments were related to the OP attitude (from memory now) of working hard for what seemed certainly less than 2 years. It takes more than that. I'm not saying "work for 30 years and then come up for air". While I would not put a specific time on it (each situation will vary) it is definitely less than 20 and more than 2! (Of course if things don't work out by 20 years you've got some explaining to do..)