> after 5 days in miami, let me tell ya — its 2%er pickings are slim.
If you're only accepting 1 in 50 people into your circle and you're a self-described introvert, how can you possibly judge how dense your "2%ers" are after only 5 days in a city? At that rate you'd have to judge 10 people a day for all 5 days to even expect better than even odds of finding a person you sort into the accepted bucket. Even if you met 100 people—20 per day—your odds are still only 86% of finding one 2%er. And if you're meeting that many new people per day while in Miami, I question whether you actually gave any one of them enough time to decide if they're a fit.
And I think this points to a larger problem with this whole concept: my "2%ers" are, as a rule, people I've already spent a lot of time with, and the causality there seems to go both ways. The more time I spend with someone the better I know them and generally the less energy it costs to be with them. On the flip side, I've never met someone who I feel energized being with after just one meeting.
If you go through life trying to swipe left and right on people with only brief interactions, you're going to find many fewer opportunities to click with people than if you go into each interaction actually wanting to make this one work.
If you're only accepting 1 in 50 people into your circle and you're a self-described introvert, how can you possibly judge how dense your "2%ers" are after only 5 days in a city? At that rate you'd have to judge 10 people a day for all 5 days to even expect better than even odds of finding a person you sort into the accepted bucket. Even if you met 100 people—20 per day—your odds are still only 86% of finding one 2%er. And if you're meeting that many new people per day while in Miami, I question whether you actually gave any one of them enough time to decide if they're a fit.
And I think this points to a larger problem with this whole concept: my "2%ers" are, as a rule, people I've already spent a lot of time with, and the causality there seems to go both ways. The more time I spend with someone the better I know them and generally the less energy it costs to be with them. On the flip side, I've never met someone who I feel energized being with after just one meeting.
If you go through life trying to swipe left and right on people with only brief interactions, you're going to find many fewer opportunities to click with people than if you go into each interaction actually wanting to make this one work.