They can basically say "i can't speak to you".
More than even that is tricky.
As for the latter, that's why i said "when they know of a non waivable conflict".
Emphasis being "know of".
Here, they know they have a conflict - they have a client, it's not this person, and they know their client will be adversarial to this person. They aren't even part of a law firm that represents multiple clients regularly or something like that where sometimes the conflicts might be waivable (often not, but still)
This is a very very easy case.
If they don't know they have a conflict, sure, they can have a conversation for the purposes of understanding if they have a conflict.
How would the lawyer even know, without conversation, that there was a conflict?