Your tribe were the people you worked with at Loom. When you left your tribe became only your girlfriend. What are you going to do? Have perfect harmony with 100% of your tribe forever? Of course not. Of course you fought. Because on top of lover she now fulfils all sorts of roles including rival, competitor, and nemesis.

You need to pick a group, any group, and stick with it.

Jumping around both physically and vocationally is not only not going to help you, it's going to make integrating yourself in to a group way harder.