My FB timeline is already a complete mess with most irrelevant garbage as it stands. Not exactly sure what adding additional 'noise' is going to achieve outside of boosting numbers (which I guess is what they want).
A current snapshot my feed:
- Group post (from one I follow)
- Ad
- Post (from company I don't follow)
- Group post (from Group I don't follow)
- Group post (from one I follow)
- Ad
- Group post (from Group I don't follow)
- Group post (from Group I don't follow)
- Post (from person I don't follow)
- Group post (from Group I don't follow)
- Group post (from Group I don't follow)
- Group post (from Group I don't follow)
- Post (from person I don't follow)
- Group post (from Group I don't follow)
- Group post (from Group I don't follow)
- Group post (from one I follow)
- Group post (from Group I don't follow)
- Group post (from Group I don't follow)
- Group post (from one I follow)
I gave up writing the above, but it was about 9 more posts before I saw a post from a person I actually know.
I don't want to make you use it more, but I found a thing that actually works for me, to restore some of the previous feed behavior. I saved a bookmark that directly goes to the "Friends" feed. It seems to have surprisingly few (I think zero or one) ads and recommended things this way. The funny thing is that the "You read all the posts" thing still appears if used in this way, telling you to go outside.
I do the same for instagram [2], and there was also a post of setting "Google web" as the default search engine, showing you actual web results, not stuff recommended by Google.
Thanks! The "friends" filter with facebook does not really work from me (I have unfollowed all my fb friends and follow only pages/groups mostly for events and such) but realised that replacing "friends" with "following" in the url actually provides a feed with anything I am following, so really thanks!
I used to use the FBP extension but it still takes so long to load and filter out stuff that facebook floods my feed, so this is much better.
Interestingly for me on iOS, that instagram link just takes me to the main feed in the app. For anyone else getting this, you have to tap the instagram logo on the top left, then select “following” from there.
I dropped FB about 12 years ago, have not looked back since. I ask people this question who still use FB and complain about terrible it is. They answer with some generic "to stay in touch with such and such" which is easier and less invasive to do with SMS or email.
I haven't used Facebook itself for 7 or 8 years now, but had to break down and make a private account just to access Marketplace. For buying used cars private party today, it seems like Marketplace is the only good option.
I haven't had any issues with it. I honestly don't know how locked down a Facebook account can be these days so "ghost account" may not be the right term.
I have my name and a profile photo on there, but I've never posted anything, don't follow anyone, and all privacy setting are set to block me from search, feeds, etc.
I've only ever had one person block me after messaging about a car for sale, and I couldn't say whether it was because of the account or the questions I sent made them think I'd be an annoying buyer to deal with.
Sure, but if you don't use it you just make that worse. Of course if Craigslist had died where you are then there is no choice. However where I live Craigslist is still active enough that I can afford to ignore anyone who isn't there.
In some regions (mine) Craigslist never took off, and now is a ghost town.
I would estimate it gets less than 1% of the traffic of FB Marketplace, in terms of number of vehicles posted. And nearly all of them are car lots, not individuals.
SMS and (to a lesser extend) email are not ways to communicate with distance friends. Someone I went to school with 30 years ago and haven't seen since isn't going to call me about their new grandkid, Facebook works well to share these types of pictures. SMS and email take too much effort, Facebook is much lower friction to share that and thus I find out, while if they uses SMS or email I wouldn't be on the list as they would give up before they got to my name in their contacts.
I'll accept Acquaintance. I still want some connection - we will meet again in person someday. However because they are that low and it will be years I need to put most of my effort into friends.
Many of the replies are saying something similar, so I apologize, as I am not trying to call you out, but to better understand; ask yourself why you need to know about the grandkid of someone you went to school with 30 years ago.
So many of these things that we use to sell ourselves to hang on to social media tend to crumble under any honest scrutiny. This upsets people. I get it. I mentioned in another comment having dealt with a substance abuse problem in the past, and the same pattern emerged. I had a problem, but refused to recognize it, so I rationalized continuing down the same path by performing some mental gymnastics about why I needed to keep doing this thing. It was pretty eye-opening when I went through the exact same process during my time leaving Facebook a few years into my sobriety.
We are social creatures and social connection is undoubtedly important to our mental health. But like all things, it tends to be better in moderation. In the case of FB, is hearing about a grandkid from a distant acquaintance a meaningful relationship? Conversely, do the likes we might get from distant acquaintances on our post add value or fulfillment to our lives in any meaningful way?
I posit that when we engage with these unfulfilling interactions, we spread ourselves much too thin, causing stress and anxiety by drawing our energies away from relationships that are closer to home, in some cases maybe driving distance between them. Sure, I can only speak from my own experience, but I've yet to see anyone's life change for the worse when walking away from social media. Hence my concern about why people seem so desperate to stay, and make no mistake, from this perspective and the replies I generally see when this gets brought up, it's the same excuse-driven desperation I see in fellow alcoholics that resist recovery.
I don't need to know, but I want to know. Social media interactions doesn't cause me any stress or anxiety: rather the opposite. Most of us don't have problems with substance abuse or negative social media engagement. You shouldn't generalize from your own very limited experience or presume to give advice about things you don't understand.
Does this desire to want to know things about people you no longer associate with, not strike you as strange? There is no actual communication here - on one end, there is someone who either has no group of people whom they feel care about their update, so they “share” it with everyone; or, they are so conceited as to think everyone on the entire internet cares. On the other end is someone who does not know what they want updates about, but knows that they want updates from some set of people (but does not want the updates enough to actually talk to those people). This mode of “communication” has for a long time struck me as very strange.
Back in the previous century, people used to do things like post birth and wedding announcements in the local paper. If you had moved away it would not be unheard of for you to be sent a clipping of such a thing by a grandparent letting you know about an old schoolfriend or teacher or neighbor. Keeping in touch with the ongoing life trajectory of people you once knew has long been something people liked to do.
I still associate with these people. I go to my high school reunion every 5-10 years. sometimes I go back home and run into them on the streets (not often but it happens). Because I see their pictures I recognize them - when you have not seem someone for 30 years you won't recognize them in person when you go to renew that connection, but if you see pictures you can talk to an old friend who life has drifted you part from. (as opposed to talking to a different group of friends and both of you leave wondering why the other didn't even show up as you were hoping to reminisce about something with them)
It strikes me as strange too. I understand wanting to believe your life is so important that you think the world at large needs to know, but the converse - truly desiring to be the receiving end of those announcements particularly of people you don't know very well - I cannot wrap my head around.
Exactly - social media is the perfect way to replicate that “town square” vibe our cavemen ancestors must’ve had to communicate with distant social connections, short of having an actual town square.
It aggregates most of the small and large music and other events in the city into a single place, and shows me when a friend is "interested" or "going" to the event.
I have forgotten how we did this before Facebook. But there are many events only advertised on Facebook! For others, I'd need to check 20+ websites every week to keep up. RSS is no longer implemented on these sites, neither are aggregators like last.fm keeping up to date. (That's probably what I used before Facebook.)
My feed is about 30% content I've asked to see or would want to see, the rest junk (AI crap, far right rage, far left rage).
Two months ago I started a subscription to see if that would reduce the amount of junk, hopefully to zero, but it doesn't seem to have made any difference. It has probably hidden ads, but I had an adblocker anyway.
For a long time I've objected under GDPR to the tracking, which I think is why I get the mixture of political junk.
> My feed is about 30% content I've asked to see or would want to see, the rest junk (AI crap, far right rage, far left rage).
Since we both seem to use Facebook in the same way, I'll just point out that you can reduce the junk to 0% by skipping your timeline, and going to Feeds: https://www.facebook.com/?filter=all&sk=h_chr
That will give you a feed of pages you've followed, and doesn't have any algorithmic or suggested content. I think the only pitfall is that it only shows you recently posted content.
> I have forgotten how we did this before Facebook
Radio, newspaper, word-of-mouth, local bulletin boards, email and print newsletters, advertising posters, etc. I might be dating myself, but that's how we got word out about things in urban areas, back in the day.
The way I see it, as a person who has dealt with actual substance abuse and understands an addiction when it presents itself, we have collectively become hooked on social media and give ourselves all sorts of excuses as to why it's better than the way we used to keep in touch or get the word out. Every one of those excuses is really just us giving things up that we cannot get back (such as time and privacy), things that others profit greatly from exploiting, all cloaked in a Trenchcoat of Convenience.
It is likely very easy for you to advertise your music events with a few clicks, yes? It beats walking around town, posting bills and leaving flyers on corner store countertops...in terms of footwork, anyway. But we lose that connection with the community around us in exchange for the illusion of a broader network that is filled with superficial relationships, at best.
> But there are many events only advertised on Facebook!
And there's the rub. These event organizers are giving FB permission to dominate our lives and extract/exploit whatever it wishes from us simply because they wanted to do a little less footwork.
I used to go to local shows at least two or three times a month in my younger days, prior to FB or even MySpace and Friendster, for that matter. I never felt like I was missing any because I didn't hear about them, since it was not hard to catch wind of this or that venue's upcoming bookings. Even the punk shows, which sometimes were organized the day of, knew how to spread the word. We were all connected, but on a more personal level, and I seem to remember less in-fighting within the groups versus what I saw back when I used FB. Online, it seems like people are at each others throats with much more ease, perhaps driven by the social shield of a keyboard, which told me that maybe we were not really meant to be quite that connected with each other. Part of me blames the fatigue that came with our over-exposure to each other being the keystone to exploiting us on a mass scale, be it to sway political opinion, impose oppression or just sell us a product we never needed.
Social media changed our landscape, so it's pretty much impossible to go back to "the way things were," but none of us are expecting that, I think. We need new ways to spread the word, ways that don't exploit us as profitable and disposable soft product. Email could be a start. We beat that drum of email being filled with spam for so many years that it's hard to separate our views on email from that, despite spam filters being pretty darned good now, and various methodologies of mitigating spam to your primary inbox in the first place. There's at least a dozen newsletters I subscribe to and read because it's actually pretty darned convenient, now that my inbox is not filled with spam. Things have changed on that front, so where else have they improved? Is Bluesky a better option than Twitter? Would people still pick up flyers from the counter of a local pizza joint? Can we use VOIP numbers for SMS about local events so nobody's real phone number is being put on a list somewhere?
I see the problem and am open to solutions, but those solutions need to come from the people who think they need FB in their lives, I think.
The answer is network effect and friction . It is hard to communicate to everyone on your friends list that moving forward they can reach you via email or text only. It’s going to work with close friends and family but other people that want to reach out will not be able to find you. And there are always cases when you want to connect (or be easy to find) with someone who is not a close acquaintance.
I'm not trying to be combative, but that still seems like a very weak reason. And it's one that I used to use, not just with FB, but Twitter, IG and LinkedIn. They all held the same promise and failed to deliver it.
The idea that we need to be constantly networking is overblown, to say the least. When you step back and have an honest conversation with yourself about how much having access to these people you occasionally talk to benefits your life, it seems to be negligible at best. Certainly not something worth sticking around for, encouraging more and more privacy encroachment, targeted advertising, etc, adding undo stress and annoyance to your experience online and off.
Are we sure that we are not using the "stay connected" excuse to hide the fact that these things were designed to be addictive and we got sucked in by it? The only people benefiting from continued use are not users, but the advertisers and platform owners? Is there really anyone on that list where your life would be worse off for not ever interacting with them again? Are there other ways of making yourself just as accessible on the off chance a stranger wants to collaborate with you on something, such as a contact email in a GitHub profile or personal webpage that would satisfy whatever net positive you think you are getting from doing the same on FB? These are not easy questions to answer, but when we start drilling down, our excuses for sticking around start to fall apart and our control for being their gets exposed in ways that we maybe don't like.
I should had clarified my case a bit better. I am a writer. People that I don't know (or know very little about) contact me to invite me to book festivals, propose collaboration on some presentation, reach out to ask stuff about what I write, inform me about updates that I need to follow, coverage that I am included in or interviews that they would like me to give. There is no other way to facilitate this communication other than to have an easily discoverable profile on a social media platform. Could I do it any other way? Sure, I could print my email on my books or leave it to people to reach out to my publisher to get my contact info. But that adds friction. I could create a webpage for my work, but that means people have to visit it to stay up to date. I could create a newsletter, that I would have to keep up to date and that people would never check, alongside the other hundreds of newsletter mail they don't check.
On top of that I also follow other people's work, festivals, book fairs, interviews, publications etc. They also post everything on Facebook (some on Instagram as well). There is no other option to stay in touch with this circle of people if you are not on social media.
I dislike Meta and I agree that the social media have deteriorated considerably from what they supposedly promise to offer. But they are still better than the alternatives.
People got used to a passive “push” model for staying in touch that they forget the norm used to be “pull”.
Now you just passively absorb updates from people to stay factually informed but don’t directly engage with one another.
With email/sms, you can just ask somebody “hey what’s up?” And get their big updates. It’s more active and requires some more investment but that’s a good thing for making stronger relationships.
And for all those distant connections that you follow on FB but don’t want to talk to… you can ask your real friends “hey, have you anything about so-and-so?”
Those models don't work for distant friends. I should call my mom more often. However nobody would call someone they were distant friends with 20 years ago to talk about their kids sports game - but 10 seconds to see those pictures on Facebook is still appreciated. When that is what Facebook does it is valuable.
what's the point in seeing photos of a kids sports game if you are so uninterested in maintaining a relationship that you'd never consider chatting with the person? at that point, it may as well be a parasocial relationship with a celebrity where you look at photos of their life and say "wow, i'm so glad i've connected with them".
there's a difference between being informed about the goings-on in somebody's life (which social media browsing/posting can help with) and actually having relationships with people.
The point is to have something to talk about at the next reunion. It won't be for several more years, but I do plan on connecting again. Remember these pictures take only seconds to view, but they ensure when I next meet that person we have some place to start from when talking.
Your argument holds a weight only if you already think that “Facebook/IG is bad for keeping in touch”. For almost any average person, that just doesn’t matter. Privacy, targeted ads, “benefits of networking for your future” are things that only us, extremely fringe group of people, care about. My parents? Never. My non-techie friends? I don’t think they know what “targeted ads” even mean.
Your reasons are even weaker. We don't need to be constantly networking but for better or worse, Meta platforms have become the only remaining effective ways to get updates from a large group of extended family and friends spread out all over the world. Like if my second cousin in Indiana has a baby I'd like to know, and I didn't think they're going to announce it via email.
I don't understand why people are downvoting you when you're just explaining the reason why. Judging by the sentiment and aggressive downvoting in this thread one would think using anything else than email and text is completely abnormal. Fwiw I don't know a single person using email outside of work and the only texts people get are appointment reminders.
Don't people use whatsapp in your corner of the world? Over here in Europe all of that happens over whatsapp, which is still a Meta property at the end of the day, but one that hasn't been enshittified with off-network crap or algorithmic feeds... so far!
What is the big difference between messaging apps and sms? They are both forms of semi-synchronous communication via texting. SMS in many cases incures charges, moreover messaging apps actually do not necessarily require using an actual phone, or even _having_ a phone, which is a big plus in my book.
How is SMS easier? I can't easily access it on the desktop or the browser. Group SMS chats seem to be non-standard if possible (never seen anyone use it). Sharing things such as photos and videos through SMS is still a broken mess.
How is SMS easier? I can't easily access it on the desktop or the browser.
As someone in the Apple ecosystem, I find SMS much easier when using it from Apple's desktop Messages program.
It's not ideal that not everyone has that opportunity, but don't make the mistake of thinking that your experience is the only experience.
It's also a bit strange, because back when I was making the transition from Wintel to Macintosh – this was before the iPhone – there were many programs that would link your desktop with your phone via Bluetooth so you could send and receive SMS messages. Do they no longer exist?
That sounds really complicated compared to just opening a web page.
It's actually less complicated than using a web page because you just start the SMS/iMessage program, and it's there ready to go. With a browser you have to start the browser and then tell it to go to Facebook. Then open the messaging portion of Facebook. Three times a many steps.
Besides, my computer doesn't even have a Bluetooth connection.
That's interesting to me. I didn't think any computer made in the last 20 years didn't have Bluetooth. What kind is it?
- post from friend
- post from friend
- post from friend
- people you might know
- post from friend
- post from friend
- post from friend
- post from friend
- post from friend
- post from frien
- loops
- post from friend
- post from friend
- post from friend
- post from a non-friend about a friend
- post from friend
- post from friend
- post from friend
- post from friend
- post from friend
I can only guess the reason mine isn't filled with spam is because I click the ... and pick "don't show me this" whenever it shows me something I don't care about.
I wish I could tell it never show me loops, never recommend friends, never show me posts of friends of friends. While annoying, it's not so bad ATM that I've felt the need to quit
On the other hand I check it less than once a week, maybe once every 2 weeks.
Any kind of booby hot chick type post, I will do this. Sometimes I go so far as blocking the account. There was a week it was all AI-generated booby photos of Salma Hayek - no matter how many accounts I un-followed or blocked, there was a never-ending stream of accounts with AI generated Salma Hayek photos being posted. I gave up after a week, and took some time of Facebook.
A month later, I returned, and the Salma Hayek stuff is all gone. Periodically it goes back into some sort of booby photo trend, and I can't get it to stop, so I just quit browsing facebook for a while and when I return it's done. On the time order of a couple weeks, unfollowing and/or blocking makes no difference.
I should mention - I am part of a couple groups for car stuff, and a couple groups for fishing stuff. It's not like the content I am interacting with is particularly boob-rich.
As far as friends, I only see stuff from friends who post a lot. That's the trend. They aren't people I comment on their posts, or even really talk to in real life anymore.
My (youtube) hack is pretty simple: when I see an ad that has really terrible targeting, I click it. Not only that I go into the settings and I click "show me more like this" (incidentally this is a great way to see that 90% of ads are completely miscategorized, kindof makes you doubt the whole system). In periods where I'm more diligent about this I've successfully reached a point where over half of my ads are Chinese-language.
I think when you click on the offending profile to block it, Facebook must decide that’s what you like to see. Or something.
Because some moron has 1000 profiles for “cars under $2500” and the more of them I clicked and blocked , the more of them would show up in my feed.
I hate that I can’t opt out of the “for you” stuff and don’t actually see anything from family or friends anymore . And I hate that the more I try to block a certain type of content (say: “Salma Hayek boobies”) the more I’m spammed with it.
So much that I have not even logged on in about a year.
This is probably it. They do not discriminate types of engagement - blocking or unfollowing is still engagement, and some team is probably gaming their numbers by intentionally not discriminating.
What matters is that the other guys in the group who like cars and fishing also with high probability engage with boob posts.
All this recommendation algorithm horseshit is just showing you the exact same stuff that trended with the least common denominator that you also are part of, no matter how much YOU PERSONALLY do not engage with it.
That many posts from friends would represent months worth of my friends posts. For most people facebook doesnt show friends posts because no one posts anymore.
I can't recall the last time I saw a post by a friend. No one posts there anymore, except if they get married or a kid. I think you may be in a particularly active bubble, while the rest of us just get fake engagement thrown in our faces.
I wish I knew the precise steps. I've certainly wanted to rage quit FB in the past but I'd be socially isolating myself since I have friends that post there. Also, FB Messenger is my most used communication tool though I could use that without using FB.
I'd love to know what A-B testing, if any, FB has done here and if their methodologies for ascertaining results are actually correct. For example, it's obvious that the success of TikTok has them pushing "loops", one of their TikTok clone efforts. I'd personally like to completely block "loops" from my life except maybe if a friend recommends one, and I'd have a better opinion of FB if they let me. I can guess that might not translate to better metrics on 1 billion people but I can also imagine not annoying people would lead to more engagement.
I quit Instagram because it was ~1 relevant post (a friend) to 5+ irrelevant posts (non-friends) and their redesign to try to push me to follow non-friends by only showing non-seen friend posts and then filling my feed with non-friend spam. So, I quit. Is that a loss for them? No idea. I only know I'd have stayed if they let me opt out of the push to be TikTok.
I want an app that uses the accessibility API to plug into Meta, Snap, etc and gives you full control over your socials ala Recall using LLMs. I feel like Gen AI is the countermeasure to closed social ecosystems trying to treat you as the product. Ingest everything my social users have access to, and let me control the experience (Recall meets Buffer?).
Scraping is old and busted, consuming the firehose available to you and controlling consumption of it on your own terms is the new hotness.
The original value proposition of Facebook - keep people you don’t see in person very often up to date on what’s happening in your life, and keep up with what’s going on with them - still feels like something people actually want, but it’s been clear for a long time that no service that tries to offer that can sustain it.
Facebook got too excited with its ability to leverage the ‘friend graph’ and broke the very reason people wanted to ‘friend’ people on FB in the first place.
Feels like people have generally decided that WhatsApp group chats are the preferred model for keeping in touch.
Any time I see a post with the "Follow" link, I click the X or triple dot to hide or signify disinterest. They appear as a flood, but the system gives up and I get a several week reprieve from unwanted suggestions.
Wow, the amount of ads I get is insane. For every three posts, one is an ad:
- Post (from a friend)
- Ad
- Post (from a random page I don't follow)
- People you may know (I don't know any of those people)
- Ad
- Group post (from Group I don't follow)
- Post (from a random page I don't follow)
- Ad
- Post (from a friend)
- Post (from a page I follow)
- Ad
> it was about 9 more posts before I saw a post from a person I actually know.
At least for me, it's because the people I care about have long ago stopped posting, and those who are useful to keep as friends post garbage, so they've long ago been muted.
I wish there were more posts from groups I follow instead of nonsense from groups they recommend.
It has become taboo to say we don't have any more content for you.
I was searching for tech jobs in Copenhagen in my fairly (but not overly) specialised field that is not overly common here on LinkedIn.
After 4-5 results that was relevant to what I was looking for it had obviously exhausted the available options, however rather than admit defeat it started showing me truly bizarre results, including unskilled student jobs in supermarkets and jobs as cleaners.
"Requirement" is a quite strong term. A requirement as to what? Keeping in touch with people can happen in many different ways. I do not see how if some of my friends posted in facebook (maybe they do? I never check) that would necessitate me to connect with them through their posts there.
A current snapshot my feed:
I gave up writing the above, but it was about 9 more posts before I saw a post from a person I actually know.