I was going to say that I think more of us should be figuring out how to make connections with the people in the communities we live in.
But I do think moving might make sense for lots of people (maybe including me), in order to have a better local community. Instead of moving to be close to past or current friends, I might suggest we should be moving to places where people are like-minded about valuing a tight knit community, then making friends with those people.
These places seem to be very few and far between, though, and it's hard (impossible?) to find them on Zillow.
i'd change that to like-minded and valuing a tight knit community. just valuing a tight knit community is not enough, because if i don't fit in with those people than they won't let me join.
personally i am going for friendly and tolerant. likeminded people (for me maybe the kind of people that read hackernews) are hard to find, and are a reason for me to prefer big cities.
I believed I needed to befriend like-minded people for the longest time, and only recently did I realize that held me back - my closest friendships now are with not so like minded people and they are more fullfilling and stronger than any since making friends in school.
Where did this idea that early friendships are not as good because they weren't formed intentionally with carefully curated people come from?
Isn't the fact childhood friendships can endure despite people changing a clue that maybe it is doing things right?
I would never become homeless as long as I have my childhood friends, none of my curated friends would let each other move in without a second thought. I've made more new close friends in a year of hangout out with anyone willing to spend time together than I did in the last 5 trying hard to find like minded people.
I don't really understand where Zillow even factors into your assessment here, but maybe that is part of the problem. If people are looking for close knit communities on Zillow, that is a massive mistake.
Tight and close knit communities are not just going to let you join them. You have to basically commit to fostering those relationships for years and years, and generally speaking that kind of commitment is not getting more prevalent, but less.
"Zillow" was a metaphor for the point that you can't just find neighborhoods and communities like this by searching online. Which I think is pretty much your point as well!
I was going to say that I think more of us should be figuring out how to make connections with the people in the communities we live in.
But I do think moving might make sense for lots of people (maybe including me), in order to have a better local community. Instead of moving to be close to past or current friends, I might suggest we should be moving to places where people are like-minded about valuing a tight knit community, then making friends with those people.
These places seem to be very few and far between, though, and it's hard (impossible?) to find them on Zillow.