Socially, i.e. about other people?

A yes, but it's odd to me that other people want me to be at a funeral with them.

If we have a great relationship, I can lend you money, share my house, get you a date, do some errands for you, take you to a party, listen to your thoughts and give you feedback. All valuable things I can do for you regardless of my funeral attendance. But just standing at a funeral? I don't see how is that valuable. Maybe for the chat, but we can have the chat anywhere else, like staring at the stars in a park, a superior setting.

And if we don't have a good relationship, well, then it doesn't matter what you want.

Do you have a social disorder of some kind? I feel that to most humans this is just immediately obvious and socially natural

Maybe I do.

Is it most? I don't know.

And do most do it because their emotions and values give them this urge, or is it that they want to fit their social circle or comply with their cultural norms? I dont know

Could you perhaps imagine a reason why a person asking you to come with them to a funeral might feel it is valuable to them that you come?

Maybe they want to remember the deceased with you in a setting that is about remembering the deceased?

Is that less valuable than wanting to go to a party together?

Oh, no if someone asks me to come I undertsand that it's important for them. So, I'd go to support my friend, but I'd keep feeling like I'm wasting my time. Just as if a friend asked my be go to their Mormon baptism.

Why would you feel like you’re wasting your time if you care about the person and it’s important to them?