To the author: I'd definitely want the blunt, unvarnished and harsh truth. No joke! The only way to get better is to get the truthful opinion of people that matter.
The problem with the standard "the truthful opinion of people that matter" is that if you don't like what you hear, you might just reclassify the speaker into the "people that don't matter" group. Even the statement of your enthusiasm for the unvarnished truth is a veiled threat...
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> The problem with the standard "the truthful opinion of people that matter" is that if you don't like what you hear, you might just reclassify the speaker into the "people that don't matter" group.
I've done that before - and it is one of the things I most regret. I ended a friendship because of that kind of mistake and swore to myself I'd never do that again.
After all, if I do that I'm exactly the kind of person I despise. How can I seek to improve myself if I won't listen when I might get butt-hurt from the words I hear?
> Even the statement of your enthusiasm for the unvarnished truth is a veiled threat...
I'm not sure how you figure that. It is actual enthusiasm, don't confuse it.
To the author: I'd definitely want the blunt, unvarnished and harsh truth. No joke! The only way to get better is to get the truthful opinion of people that matter.