I’m really bad at maintaining dominant eye contact. Now that I’ve been talking to some people who are successful founders or VCs I’m noticing that they have a tendency to pierce my soul basically with their eye contact.
I don’t have that ability and if I try it I feel like a creep but I can’t tell how the other person perceives it.
I tried improving my eye contact with ppl I meet like at grocery checkout or barista. However there’s usually like 3-4 foot distance which makes it easier.
When someone I don’t know is like right next to me or in front of me it’s hard for me to do that. It feels unnatural to me.
I tried taking off my glasses with one person and it was fine because all I saw was a blot, but then I couldn’t read wtf he was showing me at one point lol.
Aghhhh. How important is it to have and maintain such eye contact? Is it a power move? Should I just stop caring as much as be me where I have to look away at times?
I’m a good active listener, so that’s not a problem. Just this eye contact thing has been bothering me because I feel defeated psychologically after talking to these people. Maybe it is a power move.. wtf
And think about this a bit - if you feel defeated after talking to people who stare into your eyes... is that how you want people to feel after talking to you? Maybe it is just as well not to be one of the people with piercing eye contact.
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