> 20 years later, as an adult, I'm living a genuinely happy life, because I'm not forced to live according to a neurotypical schedule anymore.
Perhaps you can appreciate that 20 years is a long time and therapy/medicine has changed a lot since then.
I'm really sorry that therapy was terrible for you. That sucks. However, you do need to realize that not all therapy is ABA and that ABA itself has changed substantially in the last 20 years. A lot of the therapy that my kid gets has built in breaks for the kid to make sure they aren't overwhelmed, there are certainly days when the session is basically "we couldn't do anything today because your child seems overwhelmed".
School is also different. My kid's school has a dedicated room for kids to volunarily go to when they are feeling overstimulated. Most IEPs (US) provision that for kids primarily in general education they get pull outs as needed if they are feeling (or appear to be) overstimulated. My kid wears headphones most of the day because noise bothers them.
The goals of my kid's therapies are life skills, Communication and personal care. We aren't trying to make them not autistic, we are trying to make sure they can brush their teeth and dress themselves. Do you really think those sorts of therapy goals should be abandoned?
Perhaps you can appreciate that 20 years is a long time and therapy/medicine has changed a lot since then.
I'm really sorry that therapy was terrible for you. That sucks. However, you do need to realize that not all therapy is ABA and that ABA itself has changed substantially in the last 20 years. A lot of the therapy that my kid gets has built in breaks for the kid to make sure they aren't overwhelmed, there are certainly days when the session is basically "we couldn't do anything today because your child seems overwhelmed".
School is also different. My kid's school has a dedicated room for kids to volunarily go to when they are feeling overstimulated. Most IEPs (US) provision that for kids primarily in general education they get pull outs as needed if they are feeling (or appear to be) overstimulated. My kid wears headphones most of the day because noise bothers them.
The goals of my kid's therapies are life skills, Communication and personal care. We aren't trying to make them not autistic, we are trying to make sure they can brush their teeth and dress themselves. Do you really think those sorts of therapy goals should be abandoned?