> Ideally something you are madly overqualified for.
Sure, I don't deny that! I'm just saying that not everybody is lucky enough to have that luxury. I am quite confident that most interviewees somehow need the job (or "a" job, but each opportunity matters), and most interviewers are effectively in a dominant position.
And it is much easier for an interviewer to realise that they are in a dominant position than for an interviewee to not give a shit about the fact that they need the job.
I think the best formula to get out of the submissive mind set is to apply for jobs you don't want. Ideally something you are madly overqualified for.