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>For me, I am a divorced dad in my 40s with kids. That causes a lot of women to swipe left and there isn't much I can do about it, unless I lie.

You can change your profile to leave this critical info out. This will probably net you far more dates. However, they'll probably be one-and-done dates because most women will be annoyed that you hid this info from them until meeting, so I don't recommend it (besides the concept that honesty is the best policy).

But I don't think this is something you should blame on dating apps at all. Your situation is what it is. If someone doesn't want to date a person with kids, that's their preference and that just makes them an unsuitable partner for you.

However, it might be possible to get a few more matches by having a great profile/photos, so that some women on the edge might be swayed to swipe right despite the kids.

>Bottom line is it comes down to a number game with OLD.

I absolutely agree. The more dates you go on, the more time you spend on it all, the more likely you'll find someone who wants a relationship with you (and you with them). Sitting around and posting on HN about how no one wants to date you is not a recipe for dating success, but that seems to be the approach many men here have.



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