I want to give you a thought to hesitate on any of the anecdotes you’re reading here.
The dating landscape has dramatically changed for single people around the age of 30. If you go online, you’ll see that there are two emerging patterns: men are spending way more time being single than they were before and online dating is the most dominant way people are getting into a relationship. You’ll notice most folks aren’t going to reference either of those things…
A lot of the anecdotes you’ll be reading are going to be for a different time and culture and environment. Where you currently live has a huge effect on your success as well and not everyone is going to share such things. For instance, I’m in NYC and SF. There is no lack of educated and highly paid men in these areas. How many people in this thread met their partners in such a competitive landscape and did it within the last few years? Probably few posting here…
Personally, I met my only partner through social dancing and that has been the only way I’ve ever met anyone for anything. But I am also uniquely ugly, short for modern standards, and incredibly weak looking thanks to decades long IBS constantly sabotaging my bulking efforts at the gym. Social dancing allowed for women to close their eyes and just experience how I made them feel. They didn’t have to look at my ugly mug, they could just feel something else entirely. I don’t have a nice feeling body btw, I just move well. It’s always something those few women would talk about - how I dance with them and make them feel in that moment. That said, I don’t recommend it as an avenue. It’s incredibly challenging to get good at as a lead to where you will impress women enough to get over your homely looks (and even then, that’s a shrinkingly small demographic in today’s landscape…) and requires immense time and dedication… oh and there is a ton of competition involved. Everytime an attractive woman walks into a venue, every man in that venue will be approaching and making a move. You will be in a competition and will have to be very crafty about it. You will lose 999/1000.
That said, I’ve dedicated 15 years of my life to it. It started to pay off around year 7-8 when I met my ex.
I’ve tried most everything else as well btw. Sports, rock climbing, hiking, parties, etc. I come back to the dance thing because everything else kinda sucks more and is more predetermined on your genetics even more so. Most anyone can dance short of some disability. Just cause you’re short or ugly or don’t have great muscle building genes doesn’t mean you can’t dance. So, that’s a nice part of it.
The dating landscape has dramatically changed for single people around the age of 30. If you go online, you’ll see that there are two emerging patterns: men are spending way more time being single than they were before and online dating is the most dominant way people are getting into a relationship. You’ll notice most folks aren’t going to reference either of those things…
A lot of the anecdotes you’ll be reading are going to be for a different time and culture and environment. Where you currently live has a huge effect on your success as well and not everyone is going to share such things. For instance, I’m in NYC and SF. There is no lack of educated and highly paid men in these areas. How many people in this thread met their partners in such a competitive landscape and did it within the last few years? Probably few posting here…
Personally, I met my only partner through social dancing and that has been the only way I’ve ever met anyone for anything. But I am also uniquely ugly, short for modern standards, and incredibly weak looking thanks to decades long IBS constantly sabotaging my bulking efforts at the gym. Social dancing allowed for women to close their eyes and just experience how I made them feel. They didn’t have to look at my ugly mug, they could just feel something else entirely. I don’t have a nice feeling body btw, I just move well. It’s always something those few women would talk about - how I dance with them and make them feel in that moment. That said, I don’t recommend it as an avenue. It’s incredibly challenging to get good at as a lead to where you will impress women enough to get over your homely looks (and even then, that’s a shrinkingly small demographic in today’s landscape…) and requires immense time and dedication… oh and there is a ton of competition involved. Everytime an attractive woman walks into a venue, every man in that venue will be approaching and making a move. You will be in a competition and will have to be very crafty about it. You will lose 999/1000.
That said, I’ve dedicated 15 years of my life to it. It started to pay off around year 7-8 when I met my ex.
I’ve tried most everything else as well btw. Sports, rock climbing, hiking, parties, etc. I come back to the dance thing because everything else kinda sucks more and is more predetermined on your genetics even more so. Most anyone can dance short of some disability. Just cause you’re short or ugly or don’t have great muscle building genes doesn’t mean you can’t dance. So, that’s a nice part of it.