You have some interesting points but a lot of them which makes them a bit hard to address as a whole but;
My impression of failings of parenthood is quite a lot about (resignation in face of) partial cluelessness and the complexity of guiding your children. Every parent has aspects of personality where they find themselves clueless about how to guide the child. That can probably tie in to a lot of what you write. Focusing on the negative as you describe regarding psychology seems to be one important common theme.
P(aren't):
Don't do this, don't do that.
C(hild): But why?
P thinking: I don't really understand why. I have learned this by trial and error over a very long time. You will have to do the same. There is probably better ways to do this but I wouldn't know. And you wouldn't really understand or be able to do anything with this information anyways because you're a child so I won't even say it.
P: Because I say so. Now tie your shoes. We're going to school (for some reason).
(Disclaimer: I'm 37 and not a parent but I observe friends and family who are parents of young children. I kind of expect I wouldn't have the energy left for any observations if I was a parent myself.)
I'm a parent and I do recognize this. There's a "lower threshold" below which I'm not prepared to discuss. Like going to bed, washing up, and indeed tying shoelaces. But reasons for school and specific subjects we can discuss, and see where things are going and what to change and why. No problem.
My impression of failings of parenthood is quite a lot about (resignation in face of) partial cluelessness and the complexity of guiding your children. Every parent has aspects of personality where they find themselves clueless about how to guide the child. That can probably tie in to a lot of what you write. Focusing on the negative as you describe regarding psychology seems to be one important common theme.
P(aren't): Don't do this, don't do that.
C(hild): But why?
P thinking: I don't really understand why. I have learned this by trial and error over a very long time. You will have to do the same. There is probably better ways to do this but I wouldn't know. And you wouldn't really understand or be able to do anything with this information anyways because you're a child so I won't even say it.
P: Because I say so. Now tie your shoes. We're going to school (for some reason).
(Disclaimer: I'm 37 and not a parent but I observe friends and family who are parents of young children. I kind of expect I wouldn't have the energy left for any observations if I was a parent myself.)