Sounds like your message implied that being autistic meant being an asshole, which categorically isn't true.
You can be accused of being an asshole, it doesn't mean it's because of your autism though - and going "autistic = asshole" is absolutely worthy of a ban.
Maybe don't be so quick to portray your own experiences onto autistic people as whole. If you wanted more specifics about what Kris meant by "don't be an asshole," you could've asked her (or any Hachyderm staffer).
You are not every autistic person, and not every autistic person is an asshole.
Portraying all autistic people as assholes - or implying that by virtue of being autistic, they can't not be an asshole - is incredibly ignorant and ableist.
While I sympathise with your struggle with intent or clarity, it does seem that you were an asshole, and your projected assumptions about autistic people because of your own experiences are harmful, not helpful.
I understood it fine, but thanks for the assumption.
It was put across in an asshole way, and bringing it up when it has no relevance to commiserating the loss of a great person and engineer, is an asshole move - autistic or not.
You can be accused of being an asshole, it doesn't mean it's because of your autism though - and going "autistic = asshole" is absolutely worthy of a ban.
Maybe don't be so quick to portray your own experiences onto autistic people as whole. If you wanted more specifics about what Kris meant by "don't be an asshole," you could've asked her (or any Hachyderm staffer).
You are not every autistic person, and not every autistic person is an asshole.
Portraying all autistic people as assholes - or implying that by virtue of being autistic, they can't not be an asshole - is incredibly ignorant and ableist.
While I sympathise with your struggle with intent or clarity, it does seem that you were an asshole, and your projected assumptions about autistic people because of your own experiences are harmful, not helpful.