> This is why, when you explain it to a more neurotypical person, they will most often say, "oh yeah me too!". But it's like an Olympic sprinter saying that they can sprint, and an average joe saying, "oh yeah me too!". It's a matter of degrees.
You excellently summed up something I've struggled a lot with since being diagnosed a couple of years ago.
This thing (ADHD) has permeated every aspect of my life in incredibly significant ways since I was a kid, and life made much more sense post diagnosis. Much much more. But, one of the hardest things to deal with - which I didn't expect - is that everyone I told would just respond, "yeah me too" (relating to the "symptoms", not saying they had a diagnosis) - essentially (without them intending to) invalidating my diagnosis. Or at least that's what it felt like - to the point that I've just stopped bringing it up. (Apart from in random HN threads... :)
And I totally get it, because I would probably have said the same thing if a friend told me they had OCD. I now know that my "OCD" tendancies are very clearly "not OCD" and to describe them as such risks trivialising the challenges for people who genuinely have this condition.
So I don't blame anyone really, but it does add to the "invisibility" of dealing with what from the inside feels like a very real and challenging condition and from the outside often just makes you look and act like a "bad impression of a human".
You excellently summed up something I've struggled a lot with since being diagnosed a couple of years ago.
This thing (ADHD) has permeated every aspect of my life in incredibly significant ways since I was a kid, and life made much more sense post diagnosis. Much much more. But, one of the hardest things to deal with - which I didn't expect - is that everyone I told would just respond, "yeah me too" (relating to the "symptoms", not saying they had a diagnosis) - essentially (without them intending to) invalidating my diagnosis. Or at least that's what it felt like - to the point that I've just stopped bringing it up. (Apart from in random HN threads... :)
And I totally get it, because I would probably have said the same thing if a friend told me they had OCD. I now know that my "OCD" tendancies are very clearly "not OCD" and to describe them as such risks trivialising the challenges for people who genuinely have this condition.
So I don't blame anyone really, but it does add to the "invisibility" of dealing with what from the inside feels like a very real and challenging condition and from the outside often just makes you look and act like a "bad impression of a human".
:)