I don't think anyone else cares about what you care about either. Get over yourself! People develop projects. They have fun. Users find the tools that work for them. Nobody really appointed you as the person to worry about what options users have. Users are doing fine looking for options that work for them. They will try out Lemmy. Lemmy may improve or it might not and users may find something else. That's the way the FOSS world works.

Like I am not going to join Lemmy because I don't like the UI/UX issues of Lemmy and I also don't like how communities are dependent on specific instances. If the instance goes down or rogue, the community is affected. But that doesn't mean I am going to disparage their efforts which they are putting in to serve their own needs. If I was so motivated to improve the condition of their UI/UX, I will send pull requests, not talk about it. Talk is cheap!

This is a volunteer-driven FOSS project for christ's sake! Nobody is pretending anything about that!