Maybe finding a subreddits that fits with your interests and try not to argue and start fights while breaking the rules the mods set. Thats kind of the whole point of micro communities...
The problem is that among the kind of people who are willing to be Reddit mods, insane authoritarians are hugely over-represented. Sure, I can find some small subreddits where sane people are mods. That does not mean that I cannot express my loathing of the typical big subreddit mod.
You might be mistaking the causality here. You are implying that typical big subreddit has authoritarian mods, but it might the opposite - subreddits grow larger and stay popular because of strict moderation.
