People who are traumatized by something should seek therapy and perhaps avoid places where they are exposed to that (although perhaps the opposite is better). Demanding others to adapt their culture to fit you is a good way to actually be hated.

So someone feels like a perennial outsider because they're referred to with slur words every time they out themselves as gay or non white or a woman, they should all get therapy and deal with it? Absolutely no responsibility for the people perpetuating hate?