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Theres a line between someone who expects you to drop your friends and prioritizing your partnership over friendships. Usually that line is time and a good understanding of the motivations of your potential partner.

I've known women that prioritize their friends over their partners. They wind up taking each others advice to leave their men, they wind up lonely, raising children by themselves, resentful of one another and with a lot of regrets. They end up settling for men they don't respect just to stave off the loneliness and all the relationship problems that come with that.

If you want a family, prioritize family. That means being selective of who you choose to partner with, making a conscious choice to be good to that person, and telling your friends to get fucked when they think they can tell you how to live your life.




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