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Yeah but then again why would your marry and commit to a "2/10 friend" who doesn't share anything with you ?

I know a couple who have been together for close to 20 years, they love being together, talking together, going out together, &c. and they're just thinking about getting married now, and they're only doing it to simplify some paperwork for something unrelated

Marriage isn't a checkbox, it's an option if you find the right person and want to legally bind your things to their things in case of death/disease/&c.




When you've never had a really close friend or someone really care about you, 2/10 seems pretty nice in the beginning.


In most cases it doesn't start out that way. Either the relationship feels stronger than it really is because you haven't had many relationships in the past, or the relationship drifts apart over time as people grow, or some of both.

In my case I thought we had a lot of shared interests, but after a few years into the marriage my wife had decided that she really liked the idea of those things more than the reality, or that it was just a (nearly decade long) phase she was going through. We still get along well enough personality wise, but we can't find anything for us to do together. Our relationship feels more like good roommates than a marriage.

At the same time I can't really think of any good reason why we should end it. We don't fight hardly at all. Neither of us want kids, so that isn't an issue. AFIAK, I'm not craving another romantic relationship. If we were roommates, I wouldn't want to kick her out. So we just continue on with her being one friend among many.


Are you you me?


Marriage is more than that. Marriage is a contract of obligations. On that contract, is a foundation for everything else like inheritance, leadership, responsibility.

A marital relationship without leadership and responsibility is not a “functional” relationship even if it works well.




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