> There is a minor irony that the author has another blogpost on how micromanaging bosses are awful...
It's not as contradictory as it sounds, to complain both about micromanaging bosses and about underlings kidnapping projects. But one needs to switch the framing from universal truths about team organization to psychology.
I can relate to the situation quite closely because I think it's the same overall situation that I find myself in. I might be totally off the mark here because, like anyone, I can't read minds, but let me engage in some speculation.
The ability to have truly peer-to-peer relationships that are not based on any one side dominating the other is very rare. One needs to have a highly developed psyche to be capable of such relationships, so only a small minority of people have this ability. The vast majority of all human relationships work on a "dominate or be dominated" principle.
If you consistently find yourself on the losing end of power struggle, you start to see everyone as a threat to your autonomy. The result is that you work alone. Obviously, that's extremely limiting, and, for myself, I find it extremely painful to try to develop through that.
It's not as contradictory as it sounds, to complain both about micromanaging bosses and about underlings kidnapping projects. But one needs to switch the framing from universal truths about team organization to psychology.
I can relate to the situation quite closely because I think it's the same overall situation that I find myself in. I might be totally off the mark here because, like anyone, I can't read minds, but let me engage in some speculation.
The ability to have truly peer-to-peer relationships that are not based on any one side dominating the other is very rare. One needs to have a highly developed psyche to be capable of such relationships, so only a small minority of people have this ability. The vast majority of all human relationships work on a "dominate or be dominated" principle.
If you consistently find yourself on the losing end of power struggle, you start to see everyone as a threat to your autonomy. The result is that you work alone. Obviously, that's extremely limiting, and, for myself, I find it extremely painful to try to develop through that.