It's called an analogy. If you'd think for a few minutes you'd see the two situations are pretty similar. Of course one is far more extreme than the other, but both put the blame on the victim. Stop victim blaming.
Acknowledging that a person has agency and responsibility for their own well being is simply not the same thing as blaming them when they are victimized by other people.
Until you understand that, there can be no meaningful discussion. If you continue making accusations and demands, expect to be flagged.
