It really isn't talked about enough. I am contemplating leaving my PhD despite being ABD with the majority of the interesting work done simply because the neglect it inflicts on my family is the cause of the overwhelming majority of conflicts in my life.

I truly love working on the problem, investing time in research papers, and experimenting, but I have no desire to stay in academia. Plus, I have a well-paying full-time job (that I took during the pandemic to save my wife from having to shoulder our living expenses basically single-handedly while growing our child inside of her).

> Suffice it to say I'm taking steps make sure my next gig has more room.

I hear you. It's crazy how mentally abusive a lot of people's relationship with their PhD is. I'm convinced it's one of the reasons so many people with PhDs marry other PhDs. They're the only ones that "understand" the level of single-minded devotion you have to have to be an early career researcher.