"Always wanting to be right" is something I've been accused of since I was little, when all I've always wanted was to know as few false things as possible, even before I could articulate that thought like that. In my experience, people who don't like or want to argue, which is most people, will always assume that someone who is arguing is doing #2 no matter what. I don't think someone can correctly tell which of the two the other person is doing.