I understand the message. I get that it’s coming from a good place too. I’m just saying that stuff like this can make people feel bad about themselves unintentionally.

I'd say sometimes people may need to feel bad about themselves in order to improve. And this feeling may be triggered unintentionally, too; there's no way around it sometimes. Feeling the pain sucks though.

We disagree. Being ready to make a change and being kind to yourself are not mutually exclusive ideas.

Are you implying that feeling bad = being unkind to yourself?

I don’t anything is as binary as that no. I do think that there’s a difference between being ready for a change and beating yourself up about your shortcomings.

But what counts as well spent? That’s always my biggest stumbling block with this topic.

I believe every single person must define that for themselves, and should be a definition specific for a short timeframe, it is useless to think about an "end-goal-well-spent" time because your opinion about what is well spent is gonna change of course

For example, for me right now an example of "time well spent" is playing with my elder cat. I try to reduce the time dedicated to every other thing today just to be able to get more of this

It sounds good, but I’ve been trying to figure it out myself for years… easier said than done.