"The Montessori Baby" by Simone Davies and Junnifa Uzodike. Even if you don't intend to go Montessori, the book will teach you a lot of alternatives you won't hear about in the standard literature. Did you know instead of a crib, you can give your kid a floor bed? That way when the kid wakes up in the middle of the night (as all kids do!) they can quietly self entertain and go back to sleep. Also just good advice on how to interact with kids - cooperatively.
"Expecting Better" (pregnancy), "Crib sheet" (infant) and "Family Firm" (family dynamics) by Emily Oster. Dr Oster (economics, not md) reviews guidelines, their underlying evidence and talks about alternatives. She provides sensible recommendations (and does frequently support the guidelines!). She is the most quoted in our house, especially the "It can't just work for the child. It has to work for the whole family."
Half hearted recommendation for "Secrets of a baby nurse" by Marsha Pod. Some of what she says is no longer SIDs guideline aligned (it was when she wrote it) but she does clearly have a lot of insight and experience and passes that on well. Her method is very experiential ("This is what works for me") and not study based, but some of her tips have saved my butt (hold your kid upright after feeds!).
