> if I told my wife I was leaving my job to pursue a start up
Maybe I'm reading too much into this, but is the plan to make a decision and then telling your wife your about it? If no, then you can skip the next part.
If you answered yes, then I have one suggestion for you: ask your wife how she would feel about you perusing a startup. If a startup means dealing with financial risk, more work, less free time, have an idea about how you would handle that. Many founders' startups are built on the sacrifice of their partners' labor, time, and careers. This often goes unacknowledged.
Think about how you would feel if she decided to found a business and told you that you would have to start making sacrifices? If you are thinking, "That is something I would like to have input on," do right by her by asking her before making a decision. You signed up to have a partnership, right? That means meeting her as an equal in the decision making process. This isn't an opportunity to convince her either, it's an opportunity to explore the second and third order effects together and decide together if this is the right move or not.
Maybe I'm reading too much into this, but is the plan to make a decision and then telling your wife your about it? If no, then you can skip the next part.
If you answered yes, then I have one suggestion for you: ask your wife how she would feel about you perusing a startup. If a startup means dealing with financial risk, more work, less free time, have an idea about how you would handle that. Many founders' startups are built on the sacrifice of their partners' labor, time, and careers. This often goes unacknowledged.
Think about how you would feel if she decided to found a business and told you that you would have to start making sacrifices? If you are thinking, "That is something I would like to have input on," do right by her by asking her before making a decision. You signed up to have a partnership, right? That means meeting her as an equal in the decision making process. This isn't an opportunity to convince her either, it's an opportunity to explore the second and third order effects together and decide together if this is the right move or not.